Also, casualness at work doesn’t mean you shouldn’t also learn to speak properly (please stop saying “like” and “um”), and casual Friday usually doesn’t mean show up looking like a slob. I, for one, a person who works from home, will get more done when I dress up a bit, like, um, in a button down shirt and khakis.
Finally, if you can’t muster the energy—or mask your disgust at being asked—to do something mundane, or slightly less than soul-fulfilling at work, I beg you to think about your grandparents.
I did have four grandparents in my life growing up, I am down to just my maternal grandmother now. And I can tell you I find it to be a majorly good exercise in mental re-framing (as it’s called), to picture what any of those four depression-surviving adults would have done, or felt in countless junctions in my career.
Which brings me to a final note on selfishness versus selflessness: Narcissism comes in when we ask for things not expecting to have to do anything or add value in return. The worst of us don’t even realize we do that.
Healthy self-promotion comes from asking appropriately, after we’ve worked our butts off for others. Cultivating this kind of attitude (forgive me that this rhymes) and gratitude will not only make you feel more fulfilled in life, but you’ll probably get more back in return.
Just like a recent fortune cookie message told me: “Those who give freely daily are seldom needing to ask for anything.”
I just couldn’t resist tweeting that.
Brad Hines is a business writer, at the eponymous bradfordhines.com and on Twitter where he is a digital marketing and social media strategist. He is the founder of Hungrykids.org, a non-profit that is partnered with the United Nations World Food Program to raise world hunger awareness.