Court Says You Can Be Fired if Your Boss Finds You ‘Irresistible’

Alden Wicker

dental assistantWhat if your married boss was coming on to you and texting you inappropriate messages that you were trying to ignore? Well obviously, you would get fired.

That’s what happened to a dental assistant in Iowa, who lost her discrimination suit agains her former male boss. In a story that has the internet in an uproar, the dentist fired her because he felt like she threatened his marriage. The Iowa Supreme Court–all males–unanimously ruled that although the dental assistant did nothing wrong, was an excellent employee and resisted his advances, the dentist was still within his rights to let her go, and only give her one month’s severance for ten years of work.

Strangely, Melissa Nelson worked for the dentist, James Knight, for nine years before he began to (what we will generously call) flirt with her, according to court proceedings. He complained that her clothes accentuated her body too much (though she claims she only wore scrubs) and told her that “if she saw his pants bulging, she would know her clothing was too revealing.”

He also said of her infrequent sex life that “it’s like having a Lamborghini in the garage, and never driving it,” and asked in a text message how often she experienced an orgasm, according to ABC News, who interviewed her. She never responded.

When Knight’s wife got wind of the texting between the two, she demanded that Knight fire Nelson. Knight consulted with his pastor who agreed it was the best course of action, so Knight let Nelson go. Nothing actually happened between the dentist and assistant, but Knight told Nelson’s husband (she’s married with children) that it was because he was afraid he would try to start an affair with her.

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Nelson, in another strange twist, chose to sue not for sexual harassment, but for gender discrimination. But the court ruled that it was not gender discrimination, and that it was within Knight’s rights to fire her in order to preserve his own marriage.

The decision has been controversial. On one side, critics of the decision, including her lawyer, say it sets a precedent where female employees are responsible for monitoring and controlling men’s desires in the office. And if the boss can’t help himself? He can fire her.

But supporters of the decision think that–while the dentist is definitely a schmuck–it’s his legal right to let an employee go as long as it’s not on the grounds of race, gender or religion. He moved another female employee into her position, which indicates it wasn’t on the base of gender, it was for a personal reason.

It looks like Knight won’t be punished by the court, but he’ll probably be punished by customers. Already his Yelp page is filling up with negative reviews. Some just comment on the story, but a couple say they’ve personally experienced the dentist’s high creep factor.

We wish Knight the best of luck in saving his marriage.

  • Rachel L

    Really? It took him ten years to figure out she was “irresistable?” How about she sue him for sexual harassment for talking about his bulging pants or how often she had an orgasm? In any case, ick.

  • Guestie

    Melissa, please go for lawsuit #2. Simply as a precedent and to protect all women. The fact that he’s been so open about all these ridiculous things that he did wrong should help send this creep to jail. Women work too hard to be treated like this, WE support the economy as workers and purchasers, we are the ones that create life and give birth, and we need to take our power back from men. His behavior was completely unethical — this is a complete outrage and belongs in the Supreme Court. No, he doesn’t deserve to be married or loved by anyone, he should be castrated for his behavior and for thinking that women are less than him and that he can do whatever he wants in business and in life. Men will never learn to behave as long as women let them get away with behaving like asshole and jerks. This man should have his business license removed as well for 5 years until he learns his lesson. If the world (or US, wherever we can start) expects women to contribute to the economy and the workplace then the world needs ZERO tolerance for inequality and discrimination.