Mom Etiquette: Your Kid Broke Someone Else’s Stuff, Now What?


Mom Etiquette: Should You Pay When Your Kid Breaks Other Parents' Stuff?Imagine this: You’re visiting your neighbor, and during the 10 seconds it takes to add cream to your coffee, your toddler has knocked over your neighbor’s exotic-looking fruit bowl, shattering it into a million tiny pieces on the ground.

Or maybe you pick your 8-year-old up from a friend’s house and the other parent reports that your kid inadvertently sent the Wii remote sailing through the television set.

So … do you owe your neighbor a new fruit bowl, or your son’s friend’s mom a new Wii remote and TV? How about money?

Etiquette expert and author Thomas P. Farley, a.k.a. “Mister Manners,” says these scenarios can be awkward on both sides, but by being thoughtful and gracious, you’ll not only navigate them like a pro, but also model appropriate behavior for your child.

Scenario #1: Your Kid Breaks Something Inexpensive

After picking your son up from a playdate, he sheepishly admits that he dropped a glass in the sink by accident.

What to Do: Hopefully your child already said he was sorry directly to his friend’s parent or caregiver, but whether he did at the moment or was too embarrassed, he—not you—should sit down and write a letter of apology to the family (assuming he’s old enough to write, obviously), says Farley.
Then, you should offer to pay. Even if it’s a small trinket, the proper thing is for you to call the other parent and offer to pay for or replace the item. Most likely the host will insist it’s not a big deal. If this happens, don’t accept the first rejection, recommends Farley, but if after the second or third time the other parent still insists, “Really, I hated that cup anyway,” then take her at face value. In this scenario, it may be more important to make the offer to replace the item than to actually do so, Farley adds.

If, however, the host takes you up on your offer, get her the money right away, and then figure out with your kid how he can pay you back with allowance money or by doing extra chores around the house to make up for it. You don’t have to go overboard here and make him work off every last cent, but even a few dollars of contribution or 15 minutes of sorting the recyclables will hopefully make him more aware next time.

Scenario #2: Your Child Ruins Something Pricey

Whether it’s tossing a ball through a sliding glass door, squishing a bowl of raspberries on the new white rug or, worst of all, breaking an irreplaceable family heirloom, it can be harder to cope when your child has accidentally broken something of real value.

What you should do: No matter what the object was, the first step is to apologize to the family and try to find out what happened. The key here is to do this without blaming the other parents in any way (even if you secretly wonder why your 6-year-old was allowed to enjoy her bowl of raspberries on the new white rug in the first place).

First, have your child send a handwritten note of apology, and when it comes to expensive damages, Farley suggests being much more insistent about reimbursement. If the other family flat-out refuses, try coming up with something your child can do as a way to show how sorry she is, like helping the family rake leaves in the yard, or if it’s your teen who caused the damage, maybe she can put her tech know-how or gardening expertise to good use to help the other family out.

“Doing a chore for the other family is not about shaming your child,” stresses Farley. Explain to your daughter that you know she didn’t mean to cause the damage, but that next time she needs to be more careful, and it’s appropriate to show her friend that she’s sorry. However, if you will be paying the host family back for the broken object, that, plus a sincere apology from your kid, is plenty.

What if you’re cash-strapped and don’t have $500 to pay for a new window? Our expert says that nine times out of ten, hosts graciously decline. Still, it’s a good idea to be prepared in the event they do hand you an itemized bill. If you don’t have the cash up-front, suggest a payment plan works for you, and then, “stick to the arrangement as agreed, paying off the debt even earlier, if possible, so that both sides can promptly put the awkward matter behind them,” says Farley.

Remember: Whether you have a grade schooler or teen, don’t swoop in and rescue him when something like this happens. He should always be involved in brainstorming a way to make things right, whether by repayment or a thoughtful overture.

Scenario #3: A Visitor Breaks Something in Your Home

If someone else’s kid damages your stuff, whether it’s a $10 frame or something more valuable, it’s important for you to be gracious. “These things happen, and if you are the family that puts up a huge stink when something is broken, what’s going to transpire when your child does the breaking?” says Farley.

What you should do: Farley says whether or not you ask for money to cover the loss should be decided on a case-by-case basis. “If you really need the money, and the Vanderbilts come over and break the TV, I would not hesitate [to take them up on the offer to replace it],” he said. However, if both parties are in a similar financial situation, and replacing the item (if that’s necessary) is not going to strap either party, you might just let it go, knowing that what comes around goes around.

Tell us–have you ever had to deal with parents who were angry when your kid broke something of theirs?


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  • christine

    Hi, im not a mother but, i went to a foreigners club with my friends and their moms and me and one of my friends broke a window.Which i think was 5 by 5cm, anyway and i got super embarrassed cause i thought i could just go away but then a man saw us and asked were are our parents. he had a little talk with them and he said he will tell the manager but way embarrassed me was that the moms were looking at me and my friends were whispering to each others ears which made me even more uncomfortable and now that i came home my mother is furious and i don’t know what to do, please help!!! :(

  • Kaycee Martin2008

    What do you do if a parent breaks your child’s toy on purpose?
    Scenario: My child left his backpack in his friends moms car. They return the backpack but his brand new toy he got for Christmas that was in the backpack is gone. I ask for a whole month about the toy and they say it’s here ill send it to school. Well the day never comes. We were in their neighborhood and we stop by and the mom tells us it got broke and offers to pay for it. While the mom and I are talking the child tells my child what REALLY happened to the toy. The momma got mad and picked up the toy and threw it across the house!!!! So I text the mom and tell her I found the toy online for $25 and I offer to order it and pay shipping if she would just pay for the toy. So is irate!!! She refuses to pay for the toy! Am I in the wrong? If the child had broke it I wouldn’t of minded bc I understand in accidents but to deliberately break another child’s toy is horrible!!! What should I do?

    • Scroty McBoogerBalls

      Be glad it was only $25, buy it again yourself, and never speak to that horrible woman again. You’re in the right here.

    • truthy the truther

      She’s a bitch


    Hey-today my eight year old was at a friends house, but their friend and their mom share the home with a woman and her daughter (the owners). All the kids are going up the stairs grabbing a rail, and my son does the same and his rail just rips off the staircase. The owner seemed bothered, and I was getting ready to offer to pay, but then my friend, who also lives there said that that was the same rail that had broken twice already. The woman had fixed it, but it kept breaking. So, I call my son to ask him what happened, and the woman;s 12 year old daughter insisted that he was just normally going up the stairs and it broke. And the woman said, “Don’t worry about it, it’s fine.” Then, she goes upstairs and texts my friend that I should have offered to pay for it and it was 145 for a new rail plus money to get someone to professionally install it. Everyone is a little strapped for cash in this scenario, but besides that… she is not taking any responsibility regarding the fact that her daughter had already broken the rail in the past, it was faulty. She wants me to pay for it. I think my friend feels weird and she said she is going to have to pay for it to keep the peace, but that is definitely not fair either. I think we should split it three ways, but definitely feel that there are strange scenarios where people try to pin something faulty on your innocent kid- and it is not fair either. If people are going to be like that I feel like we just wont go to their house anymore. People will hand little kids expensive things without thinking and then if your child drops it they are like “that was $500″… shouldn’t they take some responsibility for handing it to a child without your acknowledgement? Sometimes, their child says your child did it and your child says their child did it… and then they look at you and say, “My child does not lie”, and you are like, “mine doesn’t either”… but in their minds you are in the wrong… just paying doesn’t seem fair. Personally, I want people to feel like if their kid is in my house, I tell the kid to play in a kid friendly zone and if something breaks, it breaks.

    • Banana

      Yea, exactly. Adults have to expect that children break things and take actions to prevent things they don’t want to be broken from being broken.

  • vee

    My little sister had a birthday party around a week ago and had asked for her friends to help her tune her newly bought violin (lightly used, around $450). Well something happens and one of the girls trips and falls onto the violin, breaking the neck off.
    My sister tells me the day after, promising that the girl will pay for it but its been a week and nothing. She can’t really contact her and my parents have no clue about this at all.
    I plan on telling them myself if she doesn’t but the biggest problem here is what to do about the violin?
    I doubt my parents can afford another one and, as of right now, it seems like that other girl is flaking.
    Do you have any advice?
    We’re contacting all of her friends to see if she can grab a hold of the girl but there’s not much…

    • Lisa Parsons

      Are you kidding me? The girl tripped and fell. She certainly didn’t mean to break something. She’s young and probably doesn’t have much money. What do you expect her to do? Just suck it up and consider it a lesson learned: don’t leave breakable, expensive stuff out, and more importantly, please do not expect a kid to reimburse you for a violin that was broken because she tripped and fell. Dear deity. What to do about the violin? Pay to have it fixed yourself and deal.

      • Britt

        Lisa, you’re freaking insane. I don’t give one crap if it was an accident or not. If you break someone’s expensive thing, you PAY for it. I’m sure you wouldn’t be happy if someone said to you, “Oh, I broke your thing worth hundreds of dollars. BUT, it was an accident and I’m sorry. That should be enough, right?” NO. If they’re underage and moneyless, you tell their parents. Don’t let children think they can get away with that crap. She should’ve been more careful, especially at someone else’s house. Taking responsibility for your own actions is important, even it was an accident.

        • Lisa Parsons

          And to be honest, it sounds like the poster’s sister just said that so that the poster/parents wouldn’t have a crap attack (oh the immortal phrase of Tina Belcher). I’m sure she knew that the girl was never going to pay for it. So let it go, please. Stuff happens. Deal with it. Someone who would throw a hissy fit and demand someone replace accidentally broken things is the real child here.

          • HobbyKid

            If it’s accident it doesn’t matter. Recently I left my guitar in the hands of an adult. He fell asleep and some neighbors kids came over and they played with my guitar and accidentally broke its neck. Yes, it was an accident but believe I am charging him regardless of if it not being his fault or an accident.

          • loveispainpleasure

            I hope someone is just as generous with you when you break something by accident. Oh wait, that would never happen, since you’re perfect and never make mistakes.

            Also, you can “charge” someone, but you may or may not see the money from it. And if you’re honestly willing to sue someone over a broken guitar, you may need to prepare yourself to get laughed out of court.

          • Alacasan

            You need to stop banking on other people’s generosity and be more reliant on a sense of decency. If my kids break someone else’s property, the first thing I’d do is find out what really happened and then determine whether he/she is fully or partially responsible or responsible at all so I can decide what to do about it. In the case of the violin, I feel there are two things to consider. The first thing is that the girl shouldn’t have asked a friend to help her tune the violin, in the first place; the second thing I’d consider is how the accident happened. Already, I believe the girl who owned the violin is at least half responsible for the accident. because she shouldn’t have allowed the other girl to fiddle with her expensive instrument (no pun intended). I also look into the kid’s age. If she’s very young, I wouldn’t ask for the money, if she’s at least 9 , I’d tell the parents and I’d expect some money towards fixing the instrument. If the kid is younger, I wouldn’t ask the parents for money, but I’d still tell the parents if I feel the damage was done deliberately.
            In the case of the guitar, I feel this person should be compensated. The person who was looking after the guitar should pay for it and then chase it up with the parents of the kids who broke the guitar. f a person agrees to look after something and that something gets damaged/broken through negligence, then that person is responsible for fixing/replacing that something. If my sister asks me to let her borrow my phone and promises she’d look after it and then she drops it by accident on the ground and breaks it, I’d expect my sister to either fix the phone or buy me a new phone. I once borrowed a sofa because we didn’t have furniture. My husband and I were the only people sitting on it and we were very thin, but the sofa was very old and started sagging. We stopped sitting on it because the whole thing ended up collapsing, but we had it fixed before returning it. People shouldn’t go around breaking/damaging other people’s things and expect people to be easy going about it. Worse still is to expect people to excuse the carelessness of your children, instead of teaching your children responsibility. Most of us make huge sacrifices to get little things. Three years ago, my son was playing tackle with some kids and he and other kids ripped the boy’s shirt. It was an accident and my son didn’t mean it, but I paid for the shirt anyway. I kept thinking if it were the other way around and some kid breaks my son’s new shirt, I wouldn’t like it, either. And yes, that was an accident, but no all accidents are excusable.

          • Banana

            That’s not an accident. That’s negligence.. the adult is at fault. I take care to move my guitar when I feel it’s threatened and keep it away from children at all costs. I’ve moved at a least 3 times taking care to note the possible dangers to it.

  • kevin

    my friend and I were playing a game of tag I tagged him while cornering and he knocked my glasses off and they had a little break and squeak I told him he would have to $1.50 buy he refused an said he does not have to its such a little price and he does not pay what should I do/

    • Eden

      If $1.50 is worth more to you than his friendship, then he is better off without you as a friend.

      • me

        I have better one, If he thinks you are his friend he would repay such small fee. Only owner of broken thing can decide if it’s nothing bad.

  • ethicalalice

    I received a call from a neighbor saying my child had been playing the wii and the paddle slipped off his wrist and shattered their tv. the neighbor immediately wanted to assure me she wasn’t upset with my child and they had paid 600$ for the tv. She let me know i was responsible for the replacement (which I already assumed) Skip to the next day she cant find the same tv for less than 1000$ and leaves it at that. I feel like when my children invite their friends to play at our home I am somewhat responsible for what happens under my roof and I assume some level of risk that something could be broken. I plan to pay the 600$ to them but I don’t feel responsible for a 1000$. If roles were reversed and it was my tv that was damaged I think I would have split the cost to replace the tv rather than expecting them to cover the entire thing. I don’t feel comfortable sending my child to play there anymore only because I can’t afford to replace anymore of the expensive household things they have. I am looking for input into my perspective….

    • Britt

      I completely agree with you. But with the splitting thing, whoever’s kid broke the item should have to pay a bit more than half. And I don’t blame you for not wanting your kid to go back there.

    • Paige

      How about you just pay what they want you in full, and lecture your kid about it later. It’s better to get it over with than be seen as a cheapskate.

      • ben

        No, tv was worth 600 then you pay 600. How would you like it if you wrecked someones car that was worth 3k then they said coudlnt find the same model for less than 6k. You pay for the items value not new.

    • loveispainpleasure

      LOL. That lady sounds a lot like some of the people posting here!

    • Banana

      See, I feel like if I’m watching the kids and they ruin something of mine, it’s my fault for letting them be able to even do that and vice versa. If you’re watching a kid, you have to WATCH them to make sure they don’t ruin your stuff. I also so can’t afford to pay for other peoples stuff. My stuff would probably be so much cheaper than other families stuff too.

  • Dona Noa

    Scenario #4: See if homeowner’s insurance or renter’s insurance covers the damaged or broken item. Maybe the person who owned or displayed the item, thing, etc. should have been more careful where they put it. Depends on the facts of the case, and if the homeowner was careless in some way (such as giving a fine crystal glass to a child), or putting something valuable in a walkway that makes it vulnerable to damage…I don’t generally think you should hold guests responsible for breakage, unless it was intentional or so far beyond the boundaries of common sense that it would never have happened.

  • Paige

    You’re literally the cheapest person I’ve ever heard in my life. It doesn’t matter if it’s accident or not, you STILL have to pay for it. It’s not like she went into rage about the thing. She wants her violin back.

    • loveispainpleasure

      A lot of things in life are “play at your own risk.” This violin situation is very much the same. The parents left a valuable violin out in the open and it got broken. Nobody’s going to pay for it except the people who left it out to get broken. Sorry, but that’s the way it is.

  • ARS84

    So, here is the scenario that happened tonight:
    My son and I were at a friends house visiting this evening. My son was playing with a green toy, out of the box, that he plays with every single time he is over there. Well, tonight the toy fell on the floor. My son was too embarrassed to tell me how the toy fell on the floor and broke, but it turns out the toy was from 1986 and worth $187.00 on EBAY. My friend did not appear to be too upset, and even offered the toy to my son, and said “Here, take it. It’s no big deal. If it gets left here I’ll just be mad it broke.”
    I tried desperately to figure out how the toy got broke, and even offered to pay my friend, but I felt devastated and EMBARRASSED that my son broke my oldest friends toy. I couldn’t possibly let me son take the toy home, even though it was broken and my friend said he didn’t want it.
    As we were leaving, my son had the toy in one arm, and his shoes in the other and he was ready to go. He really want that toy and my friend kept saying, “Take it. Take it,” but I wouldn’t let my son have it and my friend wouldn’t let me pay him for the damage.
    When we ended up leaving, we left the toy on the table, and my friend seemed to be okay that the toy was broke. I was still embarrassed and my son was upset, I think.

    Please, tell me, did I make any of the right decisions? I want my son to grow up knowing how to handle these situations, and I did the only thing I knew how. But, I’m not sure what I did was correct. I offered to pay. Should I have let my son take the broken toy anyways, and then still reimbursed my friend even though he said he didn’t want it? I mean….. IDK. I feel like a terrible friend, and a terrible mother, because I didn’t side with my son and offer to pay, or at least have thanked my friend for the toy and then taken it, which would seem ideal. IDK. THIS IS DRIVING ME CRAZY.

    • Bob

      You should not let something stupid like embarrassment dictate your actions. If you let negative emotions run your life then you aren’t in control. That is the lesson your child should learn here. If you teach him to allow his negative emotions to run his life he will end up a despicable person.

    • Banana

      You should have listened to your friend. They clearly didn’t care about the toy at all. If they insist on your son taking it, you should have taken it and just thanked them and made it known how grateful you were.

  • AC

    I’m kinda in a weird situation and would love some advice… a few weeks ago my 4-year-old and I were invited to a friend’s house for a play date with their 3-year-old. Their house was newly renovated and there’s a new 64″ plasma 3D tv in the playroom. During the course of play, her son took a toy and chucked it into the tv. While she was scolding the boy, my son copied the act and threw something at the tv as well. That night I received a text that the tv screen had a cloudy spot in it and would need to be fixed. Not knowing how much tv’s cost to repair and feeling bad about the situation I offered compensation – I thought it was the right thing to do. To be honest, I would have never said anything if the shoe was on the other foot b/c there was no way to prove which child actually broke the tv. Well, a few weeks later, the mom contacted me again saying that they need to buy a new tv that will cost about $2400 and insinuated that my kid was solely responsible for the broken television. To be honest, I’m more appalled that my son is being blamed for this incident. I have no problem providing some compensation and taking accountability for my son’s actions but more importantly I want the mom to acknowledge that her son is also at fault and that my son probably wouldn’t have even thrown the toy had he not seen his friend do it. What do you think? I initially (like an idiot) offered to pay half the repair cost but I don’t think that is fair. Since we can’t prove who actually broke the tv, I think a few hundred bucks should suffice – b/c if her son was the one who actually broke it, I am essentially paying for something my kid didn’t do. What do you think? Any advice? Has anyone else had to deal with a similar situation?

    • Bob

      Since you can’t prove who actually broke it, both parties are at fault. It doesn’t matter the reason your child did what he did, the fact remains that he did it. You should pay half.

    • loveispainpleasure

      The snarky part of me wants to say you should pay nothing and find new friends…but yeah, half sounds right.

    • Nick

      You shouldn’t pay the other child threw it and then your child threw something to it not your child’s fault the other one made the other one do it the other child influenced your child to do it

  • AC

    I’m in a very weird position right now… I saw exactly what happened when a friend’s tv was broken. Her kid threw a toy at the screen and my son imitated it. Either way, there was damage and one kid was responsible but it was impossible to tell who. We were both in the room and we both saw what happened. When confronted, I immediately accepted responsibility for my kid’s part and offered to make it right but helping to compensate them for the tv cost. However, when I spoke with the parent, she denied her kid did anything and was hoping I would pay $2400 for the total tv repair. I was there, I saw everything, I heard her scold her kid. I accepted responsibility for my part, why can’t she? I’m not a liar, I’m an honest and accountable person. If my kid arbitrarily threw something and broke the tv, I would pay for the entire thing. However, we don’t know for sure who did it. Either way, this looks bad for me. I either come across as a horrible person who is trying to get out of paying for a damaged item or I go against my own morals and values, give in, pay the money and have to live with the fact that I know what really happened but gave into the pressure despite knowing the truth. Any thoughts? BTW, if the shoe was on the other foot, I would have just sucked it up as it being an accident, especially if I couldn’t prove who actually broke the tv.

  • dwill

    hi i went to the mosque recently and a child stepped on them as i was praying they were in front of me the parent of the child know what has happened and the parent didnt offer to pay or anything, he just asked if it was his son and didtn even apologize or anything, but after going to the store I realized that the bill is close to 200 dollars and I am strapped I dont know how to approach this situation

    • Banana

      See, that situation, since it was a public place, they should have paid for whatever their kid broke. Even if it was an accident.

  • smh

    Here lets just trip and put a 500 dollar dent in your new car. It was an accident though, so then the dent magically dissappears with a half-assed apology.

  • Dude man

    I threw my moms tv remote and I’m using my sisters but I can’t change volume with her remote my mom is going to notice what do.

  • Wiwik1

    Hi, the neighbour kid (9 years old) visited our place and played with my son (6 years old). I wasn’t at home that time, but my husband was at home did some work with his computer so he didn’t noticed that the neighbour kid broke my son’s Kantele’s string that we just bought today for my son’s music school and it cost 140€. Well maybe it was my fault that I didn’t put the new Kantele in the right place so nobody touch it, but I was in hurry for my evening course. My husband called me and he said that the neighbour kid went home suddenly like he did some mistake without saying anything, and he saw the Kantele’s string broken. I got so annoyed with it, what should I do? should I call her Mom and tell her about it?

    • Banana

      Your husband was in the wrong in this one. He should have been watching the kids and also, strings are no hard or that expensive to replace.. so just replace the string.

  • Tini

    Hi, my son slipped in my mothers kitchen an accidentally fell on the open dishwasher door. This caused the hinges to bend so the door did not close properly anymore. He was injured but luckily it was just severe bruising. At first my mother wanted me to buy her a brand new dishwasher, but, I refused because her dishwasher was already 6 years old and my son did not damage her property maliciously, it was a complete accident! So, I offered to pay to repair the dishwasher, and I did. It cost me about $250 to repair the hinges and seal. Now, a few months later she is stating the motor is going out and I must buy her a whole new dishwasher. I don’t see how my son falling on the door of her dishwasher has anything to do with the motor. Haven’t I already upheld my responsibility for this damage?

    • Rolly Fogo

      It’s pretty clear you know the answer. Don’t be bullied by someone who has taken a giant leap in her mind that somehow the hyper-extended door issue caused a faulty motor a few months down the road, Ridiculous!

  • Emily

    I was checking out my brother’s guitar and found out it was greatly out of tune so i was tuning it but I tuned it too quickly and the e string snapped. He plays his guitar so regularly he will notice in a matter of hours, what should I say to him? Should I stay silent or tell him the entire truth? He gets angry really easily…

    • Banana

      Dude. Guitar strings are so not a huge deal. They break all the time and are not that expensive. Just buy a new one.

  • Miles

    Well, I have an awkward situation about property damage. Last winter I owned a truck with a snowplow to clean my driveway and would also clean my neighbors and brothers drives just to be nice. No one ever offered any form of compensation and I was not looking for it, however repairs, insurance, gas all adds up over the long winter we had. One lousy day, I decide to go plow my brothers first thing so his wife will be able to take my neice to school without trouble. There was a lot of snow and ice and what happens…. The drive is iced over and my truck skids into there house knocking a wall of brick loose on the garage! There goes being a nice brother for ya. I lined up the repairs and paid to have it all fixed in the spring, it cost me $8500 to be a nice brother and plow a drive. Tuff lesson, had to sell the truck to pay for it. Now I have a shovel and will not be Mr nice neighbor again. Was it the right thing to do, what options where there?

  • Laura Cotto

    Wow!!! In this situation now. We recently stayed at a friends home where they have two older children 9 and 13. Well my 4yr old was caught by me playing with the laptop and I immediately took it away and put it up high so she wouldn’t break it. I told the older kid to keep it away from her and I took it away because she could possibly do just that. Anyway after coming home from the beach we had dinner the older girl was on her laptop for about 4hrs and my 4yr old was mostly with me. Last time she went in the room I pulled her out and she fell asleep next to us. Next thing I know the host mother comes and tells us my kid broke the laptop and she sat on it. Which is funny because it was Working the whole day. Two days later she’s now trying to blame us for breaking a toilet seat which her son ripped down a shower curtain and i noticed the seat was broken right after. So NO I’m not paying or staying ever again.

    • Banana

      You’re right. They’re ridiculous. Also, there’s no way a 4 year old sitting on a laptop would break it even if that had happened unless they were massive.

  • Erika Morrison

    Sure…let someone total your car….it was an accident of course….that person certainly didnt leave home and intended on destroying your car….lets just say its a teen new to the road… But..hey….. They are sorry …no cost to them…it was an accident…
    Dumbest thing I’ve heard all year…congratulations..
    The parent have to take responsibility for their child no matter how small or big….that item may not have no value to you and a sorry might be acceptable to you..but in the real world….you break it you pay!
    These adults these days…thats why these kids are the way they are!

  • Tracy Mcmichael

    My teenage daughter was using her dad’s expensive mobile phone. Another teen took it from her back pocket and threw it to his friend who didn’t attempt to catch it resulting in the phone hitting the pavement and breaking. Iv contacted the boys parents who said they would sort it out but now they are avoiding my texts. What should I do? We want to have it repaired.

  • Whitley

    Hello, my 1 yrs old broke and was reaching behind a TV to get his toy and and friend of his dad had placed there TV in our room on the floor. As my soon was reaching back to get the TV fell flat on the floor and cracked. We immediately told them what happen, we told them we cold replace the TV, they told as long as it’s a Samsung tv 43 in well we went every where looking for a TV for them we found a Samsung 42in and it looks just like the TV that had broke, when we brought it to them the didn’t want to take it so they were threatening to press charges on us for not buying them the same exact TV. I still have the receipt to it. So I told them if they want to press charges they can. So now they want give us the TV back. But they still keep threatening to press charges. What should we do?

  • Whitley

    Hello, my 1 yr old son was reaching behind a TV to get his toy, the toy was behind the TV that was laying flat in the floor well the TV belonged to a friend of his dad’s. As soon as my son got his toy the TV fell flat on the floor and cracked. My son was okay. When the TV cracked we immediately told them what happened, they were saying it was okay he’s a baby he didn’t mean to. So I told them we wld replace the TV. It was a Samsung 43 in but I did tell them that I wld replace it and they told us as long as it’s a Samsung TV. So we found them a Samsung 42 inch. We brought it to them and they weren’t satisfied because it was an in off. I not once said I wld give them the money I told them I wld replace the TV. She than told us that she would press charges on us but she want give us the TV back even to try to find something else. What should I do? She haven’t press charges yet but I need to know what I need to do? Before she try’s to? Help please ?

  • tasha

    Hello, I know this post is pretty old. However I have a similar situation and I’m seeking some advice. So today I get a phone call from my son’s 4th grade substitute teacher (on her personal cell phone, after school hours around 7pm) she tells me that on yesterday there was an incident during recess were my 10 year old was running playing with the other children and he ran into her and her phone fell and cracked. So she wants me to pay 140.00 to replace the phone. Now I have 1 major issue with this call in which I asked her “why wasn’t I notified by the school of this incident on yesterday when it took place?) I only heard about it today because she just literally out right ask me to give her the money. I am livid by this situation. I don’t feel it was appropriate for her to be calling me on her personal cell outside of school hours asking for money without even notifying the parent of the event in question of the incident. I immediately called my son yelling and fussing asking him what took place and why didn’t he tell me about the situation. His response was that he was running around on the playground the teach was just standing around and he bumped into her by accident, the phone fell out of her hand, he turned around and apologized and then proceeded to play, and that was it. Now I’m all for if it was done on purpose he should be held responsible, however if it was just a mere accident, in which she as a teacher dealing with kids during school hours chose to stand in the middle of a play ground with kids running back and forth holding her phone. Should he be held responsible? (Any teachers your response will be greatly appreciated)

    • tasha

      Sorry guys I meant *where

    • Banana

      No, that’s all on her. It was clearly an accident and there is absolutely no reason she should have even had her phone out while she was “watching” children. I would have reported her to the school upset that my child wasn’t being sufficiently watched and that a teacher called after school hours demanding money for a phone she shouldn’t have even had out during school hours.

  • Tiffanie Few

    My son is 13 he went with a friend to her mom’s farm and his mom said that both of them damaged some antique cars. And are asking that I pay half. But I’m thinking that being that she was supposed to be responsible for them and watching them that I shouldn’t be responsible for anything. I’ve watched kids in the past that have broke things of mine and my kids and never damanded the parents to pay for the stuff they broke because they was in my care and was my responsibly while they were in my care. Does anyone agree with me or am I wrong for not feeling like I should be responsible for half? My son said his friend told them they was junk cars that were going to be used in a monster truck show. So he went off of what she said. Now granted I did tell him you can’t always go off what someone tells you and if it’s not yours your not supported to touch it. And he is being punished to his room with no phone, Internet or game for a month. But what is everyone else’s thought on this thanks

    • Banana

      No, I totally agree. If you don’t want your stuff broken, keep an eye on the kids or keep the stuff inaccessible.

    • PKBitchGirl

      Your son is 13, 13 is old enough to know not to damage things. Pay for the damage and then make your child pay it off in some way, financial punishment is a great learning experience.

      • Tiffanie Few

        Yeah he was 13 and know not to damage someone elses property but when the person that he is with says they belong to her uncle whose farm they was on and that they take the cars and use them at the monster truck show and he believes her because she’s supposed to be his friend why would she lie say that when it was her Uncles stuff? So of course he beliced her so why should i or him be responsible

  • Mojo

    Our teenage nephew borrowed a video game from a friend and brought it to grandma’s house during their week-long holiday visit. This nephew plays video games numerous hours per day and my teenage son had played the game a little as well (not near as much as the nephew). We received an e-mail from sister-in-law that the friend said the game was broken and demanded them to buy a new game (the game was several years old at the time of the borrowing) and they wanted us to pay half of a $50 game since our son had played the game too. We refused because the game was old and you could buy it for $20 now, it was working fine during the visit, we had no idea what condition the game was in when it was borrowed, they shouldn’t have borrowed it in the first place and should’ve taken full responsibility for it during their visit. Actually, the nephew wasn’t expected to pay anything for some reason he talked his way out of…they expected sister and our son to pay. No outright damage occurred, the friend said it was “played too much.” Could the nephew’s game station be responsible? If this was an isolated incident, I’d pay and be done with it, but our issues with this family go way beyond this one instance.

  • Justmy02cents2

    What if you and your son are rough-housing while your wife is at yoga and you break the window right next to her bed? How would you handle that? Signed: Desperate Husband.

    • Rolly Fogo

      don’t be a moron and board it up until you can have the glass pane installed. be a man!

  • April O’Reilly

    So, Last year my youngest son snuck my phone out of the house. (My phone was cracked but it was still usable.) He wanted to show his friend something but they couldnt unlock it. So his friend tried the screen wouldn’t come on, so his friend smashed it on the sidewalk. I asked him why he did that. He said that he thought it was broken because the screen wouldn’t come on and it was cracked. There was glass missing from yhe screen. It was destroyed. Luckily I had my older sons phone which was the exact same phone I saved it as a parts phone. So I took it to the phone repair place. Not only did they have to replace the screen but they had to replace buttons and the circut board. It cost me $150 to get repaired. I paid $100 and adked the kids parents to pay $50. They gave me the money but they were super pissed about it. I paid more because I should have put my phone away instead of letting it charge on the counter and it was my child who snuck my phone out. Now they don’t want their kids playing with mine. Was I wrong to ask them for $50. Another neighbour saw exactly what happened and backed me 100%. I feel like it’s my fault that they don’t want my kids playing with theirs anymore and they talk about us to all of their friends. Do I give them their money back or what?

    • Banana

      No. I mean, I can see how you would think you were in the wrong by leaving your phone somewhere accessible, but he deliberately smashed your phone. I think you were being a little too reasonable.


    I have an issue and am unsure what to do.

    My son had a bad day at school. On the bus ride home his friends were watching a video on one of the kids phones. They put the phone in front of his face and my son told him I don’t want to watch the video, The kid continued to put the phone in his face laughing and being kids telling him to watch the video. My son responded again with I don’t want to watch the video. The child again pushed the phone in his face and my son for the third time said I don’t want to watch the video. Now they are off the bus and the boys are walking home. The same child again pushes the cell phone into my sons face. My son puts his hand up to block the phone and the child looses control of the cell phone and it hits the ground and shatters the screen.

    Who is responsible for the damage?

    This is the story the mother told me since I did not witness the incident. She insists that my son is responsible for repairing the damage to the phone. I have a hard time agreeing but want to see what others feel. The boys have all been friends for over 2 years and of course my friendship with the mother is also an issue.

  • diva girl_4life

    simple… take responsibility for your or your kid’s actions. if you break it, you have to pay for it.

  • Sarah Roberts

    Okay here is my Scenerio…… My daughter was on a play date at her best friends house. Both were running thru the house and both were told to stop. Her best friend started chasing my daughter again and she turned around and ran right into the screen door. The “WHEEL” on the screen door broke. Not the screen or the frame. A WHEEL…… But this screen door is so ancient that they do not make hardware for this screen door any longer. So the mother thinks I should pay for the new screen door and labor to put in on. I do not feel as though I am responsible, or at least not fully responsible. Both girls were running in the house. And both girls were told to stop running in the house. My daughter does not even have the ambition to run around as I am explaining unless she was being chased. She is a bigger girl. And why should I have to pay for a $100 door when a $2 WHEEL was bent? If the door was that old, you would think they was going to replace soon anyway.
    P.S. The mother is a friend of mine and they are not hurting for money and she knows that I live paycheck to paycheck.

  • Brittany

    What do you do if you’ve been watching a 3 year old child for 6 months that is no relation, getting lousy pay, and has either broken, scratched, or soiled some of your things. For example: my smart Roku tv (scratched to high hell with a colored pencil), my queen sized memory foam mattress (peed on), a table that held movies (she bounced on it till it broke), and my set of blinds (broken on one side and dented the other). All I want the mother to do is pay for the damages. The mother is leaning toward not paying me. Now I tell you, I am no mother. I am 22 years old. I have background of watching children before, and pretty darn good at it. Never have I ever watched a child literally 24hrs 7days a week straight without a break. Then again I knew what I was agreeing to. I was hoping any damages that were done in the time I had the child I would be reimbursed for. I was just doing her a favor and I think she forgot that. Now I have broken, scratched, and soiled things. Why can’t she just pay me back. I don’t know what to do. I’ve taken pictures of everything. What can I do???

  • Mustard_Seeds

    (middle school age )
    The next door neighbor’s kid came over and while exchanging our kid’s ipad, dropped it. The device was ruined. The child went home and told his parents about the situation. The parents did not come over, call, or speak to us about the situation. The next day, the kid came over and asked if our child could play. We asked the child if his parents ‘really’ knew about what happened and he said yes. He said that they were disappointed. We told him that accidents happen and that it was both parties fault. We said thank you for the apology and suggested that when the boy grows up that he will care enough to find out about damages his kid is involved in. He said he will do that when he is an adult. A minute after he returned home, his mother came to our door full of concern and said that she cared. She asked about the device and wanted to know if we wanted them to contribute anything. We said no thank you, we’ve got it covered and that we just wanted to know if they cared. Sometimes, letting people know that you care is enough. (Sad that is took nearly 24 hours and some reminding through a child.)

  • Jess Stuart

    I always find a trail of broken stuff a few days after my in-laws come to visit.

    The worst was when my nephews split the wood frame on our oak dining-room table by both setting on one end (probably 350 lbs total) and bouncing on it.

    The most annoying was when I saw my mother-in-law playing a game on our new tablet PC, then pressing down really hard on the touchscreen. Now whenever you tap on the screen near this area there is a weird swirly distortion. I’ve been on the other end of troubleshooting and fixing warranty return electronics items. I’m not going to be one of those people who abuses stuff then sends it back just because it is under warranty.