http://www.learnvest.com/discussions/categories/money-and-relationships/feed.rss Thu, 24 May 12 14:20:35 -0400 Money and Relationships en-CA http://www.learnvest.com/discussions/discussion/197/moving-forward-in-merging-money Wed, 23 May 2012 12:31:04 -0400 learninghow 197@/discussions/discussions http://www.learnvest.com/discussions/discussion/192/when-the-are-wearen039t-we-sharing-money-gets-murky Wed, 16 May 2012 09:10:51 -0400 modgirl 192@/discussions/discussions
Then the strangest thing happened. My partner is putting things back together financially and is almost in the same place as before. But when we discussed the joy of getting those checks from the insurance company recently, my partner blew me away with saying we would just split things down the middle since the renter’s insurance is theirs and if it weren’t for the insurance, I wouldn’t be getting paid back at all. I am at a loss here. Somehow my money became our money? I see it as, “it is wonderful that the insurance company will be able to reimburse me some of what I fronted (remember, we don’t share finances) during a medical fiasco.” Because my partner views it as 50% divisible because “it’s not like I would have gotten that money back anyway” and we are moving and “so, the money is going to the same place: moving, first/last/security, new furniture, etc.)

But, it was “my” money that “we” are being reimbursed for no matter how we end up spending the money. Right? Am I crazy on this point? Are we only going to share finances when my partner needs my financial support and then we are back to going dutch?

Please LV readers tell me what you think!


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I have a close family member that is getting married in an exotic location that I know I can't afford to attend, but everybody in the family became really upset when I suggested I wouldn't go. A wealthy family member that I am not very close to has offered to pay for the whole thing, but I don't feel comfortable being "indebted" to them. However, the rest of the family can't understand why I wouldn't go if it's "free". The end result is that I feel pressured to just go and pay for it myself whatever it costs. I'm still not comfortable with it and I especially don't like feeling forced to go at some cost to my financial independence. Am I being insensitive to the significance of a wedding? Any advice or thoughts?]]> http://www.learnvest.com/discussions/discussion/135/what-is-your-date-budget Wed, 08 Feb 2012 11:12:32 -0500 CherylL 135@/discussions/discussions http://www.learnvest.com/discussions/discussion/134/dividing-finances-after-a-break-up Tue, 07 Feb 2012 12:53:56 -0500 modgirl 134@/discussions/discussions
I am in a bit of a moral pickle! Here is the story:

I was in a relationship with someone for two years. In that time, I helped him get settled in NYC, let him stay with me rent-free until he found an apartment, lent him my furniture and paid for every date because I had a well paying job and my boyfriend did not. However when I lost my job, my boyfriend picked up some of the slack and paid for my rent (we ended up living together to save money) for a few months and bills, etc. A few months later, we broke up. It was both of our faults, but he technically broke up with me. I let him have our shared apartment and most of the furniture. Over a year has past, and now he wants me to pay him back for the rent he insisted on paying for me so I wouldn't be stressed about losing my job. It was an incredibly sweet gesture, and I would love to pay him back but I am still on unemployment and barely getting by. When I land a job I can pay back the money my ex feels I owe him. But, all of my friends say that I don't owe him a thing because what happens in a relationship stays in the relationship. Are relationships like Vegas? ]]> http://www.learnvest.com/discussions/discussion/50/engaged Wed, 19 Oct 2011 10:41:38 -0400 LV 50@/discussions/discussions http://www.learnvest.com/discussions/discussion/81/do-you-have-a-living-will Mon, 31 Oct 2011 17:02:28 -0400 LV 81@/discussions/discussions