In our Money Mic series, we hand over the podium to people with controversial views about money. These are their views, not ours, but we welcome your responses.
Today, one woman tells us why she gave up her career in hotel administration to be a stay-at-home wife, what she’s doing instead of a 9-to-5, and how, even though she’s not bringing home the bacon, she’s in charge of the finances in her one-income household.
I’m 37 years old and married without kids—and I haven’t worked in four years. That feels like a confession. I didn’t expect to be living like this in my 30s, but not working has worked out for me.
I started my career in hotel administration about 14 years ago. I met my husband, Joel, 44, on the job in 1998. At the time, we were both in hotel administration at a big hotel chain in San Francisco. It was my first job out of college and I thought it was going to be my career for life, but I quickly learned that hotel management is incredibly demanding. You’re putting in long hours on holidays and weekends, and it’s an especially tough industry to get ahead in if both partners are trying to progress their hotel careers at the same time. Overtime and work transfers to different cities are par for the course, so with all those variables at play, it makes it tough to sustain a relationship.
Switching Gears, Changing Locations
But Joel and I did make it work. In March 1999, two weeks after our first date, we moved in together. Then, just two months later, he got his first transfer from San Francisco to Carmel, Calif. There weren’t any vacancies for my position at the new location, so I found a job at another hotel in Monterey. We stayed in Carmel until 2001, when Joel was transferred to Indianapolis, where it wasn’t as easy for me to get work within my field. We needed the extra income, so I ended up being a nanny, and then a waitress.