Who Pays for What in a Wedding?

The following guest post is written by Rachel Wilkerson of Lover.ly, a curated search engine that lets brides-to-be search, save, shop and share all things wedding-related.

These days, the cliché of the bride's father paying for her wedding is quite outdated. In reality, more and more couples are paying for some or all of their wedding costs.

The uncertainty of what, if anything, parents will contribute can leave couples feeling awkward, as they want to start planning but are avoiding talking to their parents about cold, hard cash. Here's our step-by-step guide for dealing with this uncomfortable but necessary topic.

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  • Guest

    I could never imagine asking my parents to pay for a decision I made as an adult, whether it is college tuition, to get married, buy a house, etc. I would say if your parents offer, THEN schedule a conversation about it. If they don’t approach you to offer to pay for some things, then I think it is inappropriate to approach them. Hopefully families have talked about it and both sides (children and parents) have at least given hints on where they stand in terms of paying for a wedding in advance so you’re not going blind. We paid for my wedding, but it was incredibly small and then we traveled to family throughout the year after to see family that were not included in the wedding itself.

    • AA

      This decision very much depends on the family, and on the bride’s and groom’s relationships with their parents (or whomever they are asking). I think most (emphasis on “most”) people have an idea of what their parents’ mindset is in this regard, and, if not, it’s still perfectly OK to ask in a polite, not-entitled way.