What’s your best advice for dealing with a mean girl at work?
Kathi: Do not counterattack. Whether someone gave you a dirty look or critiqued you in front of other colleagues, the natural reaction is to attack back. But the best thing to do is take time to cool off, so you can react in a professional manner.
Katherine: Women are processors, so you’ll need to find a way to process what happened. Release those negative feelings through exercise or talk to a trusted friend or advisor outside of work. Then you’ll need to look for a way to solve the problem professionally—without getting into a personal battle.
What if the mean girl is your boss?
Katherine: Make the most of your current position for your resume, but also find ways to get out and meet other people in your industry, so you can build bridges that will take you to the next opportunity—to a better place.
Are there fewer or more mean girls at work these days?
Kathi: There are more because there are more girls in the workplace. We love women, and we’re big supporters of them in the workplace, but this is just a dark side to working with women. Not everyone exhibits mean girl behavior—but we’re all capable.
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