What Happens When Dream Jobs Don’t Come True?

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A mere five hours ago, I returned home from the Sundance Film Festival. Sadly, not fresh-faced from a first class seat on a flight, but after an 11-hour drive with a 103 temperature from getting four hours of sleep a night and eating Subway sandwiches and five cups of coffee per day. Not very glamorous!

Growing up in a small southern town, I loved two things: fashion and movies. I wasn’t interested in making either of them, but I did have specific things within them that I loved. I liked styling my friends in a mix and match of mall clothing and vintage finds, and I loved watching movies and picking out songs that I thought would better emphasize my favorite scenes. This was something I later learned was an actual job – music supervision. So like many of the dreamers of my generation, I packed up my 17-year-old bags and moved to New York City to attend NYU for a double major in music and film. I had no idea what I was in for.

College was really hard on me. The fast reality that both film and music were incredibly hard industries to get into was weighing me down. So were the mounting student loans – a resounding $148,000 by the time I graduated, pre-interest. I know, you’re probably thinking, “What kind of idiot expects to go to NYU and then just waltz into a money-making Hollywood career?” Well, this idiot, I guess. I grew up, like many others my age, being told that if I worked hard and really wanted something, I would get it. My dad often joked that you don’t follow your dreams; you chase them down and beat them into submission. And I completely believed in that!

But by the time I graduated, I was in a near state of panic. Was this it? I’d drag my bags back to Georgia with my tail between my legs and plaster a “Well, I tried, folks” look on my face? I hadn’t a clue.

Luckily for me, fate intervened. In college, I worked as a nanny to a special needs kid in my neighborhood. The mom was an editor at CosmoGIRL! and helped me get an internship that I’d hoped would turn into a job. It didn’t, but I soon landed a gig as a researcher for Jane magazine. While it wasn’t my dream job (and I felt guilty for months for possibly taking the place of someone whose dream it actually was), I found that having the chance to research and sometimes even write about movies and entertainment was nearly as good as actually being a part of the industry.

That was, until Jane folded. I remember clearly my exit conversation with the lady from HR, who told me pretty straightforwardly to find a different career path. “It’s a dying field, honey,” she told me. “You’re young and you can still start over. Sometimes dreams don’t work out, but you’ll find something else. Dreams change and so do people.” Something else, I thought. This was my something else!

The next six months were a tough wake-up call. I took a job as a PA (production assistant) on a small, indie film. Honestly, I think I was just hoping the flick would get into Sundance and I could finally go. It seemed like a dream. I also figured I might meet some people, or at least see if there was another position in film that I might be interested in. There wasn’t.

The reality was that what I wanted to do was nearly impossible to get into, especially without knowing anyone. I could toil as a PA for a few years and take my chances, but I just… didn’t want to. I know this sounds nuts, because I was all of about 23, but I was exhausted. I took a job at Urban Outfitters around the time that many of my friends were getting their first job promotions. To say that I felt lost is probably an understatement.

  • Andrea Barnes

    Very related-able. I have what would be a dream job for some woman but it does not pay very well. Sometimes even when dream jobs come true you wonder if it’s the right job.

  • Gea2006

    Thanks for sharing your story.  So often we hear the dream stories that make us drool and wonder where we all went wrong in our lives.  I appreciated hearing your very real (and at times very challenging) circumstances and how you’ve managed to make the best of them and keep a positive attitude all the while.  You may not have reached your dream career yet, but your perseverance  is quite inspirational.

  • Chardae Davis

    Exactly what I needed to read today :)

  • Steven Scott

    I’m pretty much in the same boat, so I can relate to this story. The challenge is finding where you belong. Realizing I can not do this all alone, I’m learning how to walk in the Holy Spirit becoming one with Christ and have Him direct my steps. Now as I do my career search I have somebody with me.