7 Signs You’re With a Financial Keeper

There are signs that your relationship is doomed. Signs she’s not that into you. Signs he secretly has a crush on someone else.

Magazines often sensationalize our romantic relationships—and it works, because most of us are at least somewhat self-conscious when it comes to the people we love. Does he love me as much as I love him? Does she think of me like I think of her?

And, most of all: Is it destined to work out?

Although money isn’t the reason that you’re with your loved ones (at least, we hope!), it is one of the biggest causes of marital disagreements. According to a nationwide survey conducted by LearnVest and TD Ameritrade, respondents report that they have about five fights a year, on average, about money.

That said, instead of creating a sensationalist list about why it might not work out between you and your sweetie, we came up with a list of good signs—ones that signal the person you adore is mature, capable and an all-around financial keeper.

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  • Lisa Simpson

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      I am having same issue!!!!

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  • Jen

    Works in Chrome and Safari (mobile site). Fails in IE 9.0.8112.16421CO–can’t view Slide Show *or* List View.

  • Mara

    well I am thankful that my partner has almost all of these..saves for fun, open about money, we don’t get in fights, etc.  He is also frugal and debt free.  The problem is that he really doesn’t have lofty ambitions..oh let’s say he does but with no real plans (realistic plans) to get there. At times when I focus in the positive I am somewhat OK with this but some other times it is hard to watch someone so talented that settles for less than his potential.  And it is hard to push him if he thinks that everything is fine…anyone out there with similar experience (currently or in the past?)

  • Kimb715

    My fiance and I are totally on the same page with money and we have never had a fight about it. We are in our 50′s and we are both financially responsible and compatible. A first for both of us, I think! 

    Finances were a huge part of why my first marriage didn’t work. I couldn’t agree with this article more. 

    It’s great that young couples today have this information available to them. When I was young, I was never taught how to be financially responsible. I had to learn through trial and error. If I knew 30 years ago what I know now….that would have been amazing!

  • http://twitter.com/KianaDanial Kiana Danial

    That’s why Invest Diva is aiming to educate women on how to invest in forex. Good stuff happening to women in the US!

  • Tallywg

    Actually, I think it’s OK to pay for vacations with plastic, as long as it’s paid off quickly, or one has the funds available to do so, as one can get some pretty good cash rewards, and trip cancelation protection by using a credit card!

  • Goldye

    Agree with tallywg that big purchases i.e. vacations should be paid with credit card.  Credit cards protect consumer vs. debit.  Also online purchases & restaurants should be paid with credit.  Protects consumer against identify theft.  That said, consumers should pay off credit card purchases in full every month.  Avoid having a balance.  Why pay the banks all that interest?  As for me, my husband & I have been married 32 wonderful years!!  We never fought about money.  We talk all the time about investments, saving, expenses, etc.  We know where every penny is spent or saved.  We never lived a lifestyle that we couldn’t afford.  We both agreed to do without & live poor so we could have money in the bank for emergencies.  Now that we’re ready to retire, I’m happy we did everything right, so we FINALLY can enjoy retirement   While all our friends bought houses, vacations, etc., we will start doing that next year.

  • Kurt

    I learned this from my dad at about 13.  The rule is your age times your income divided by 10.  You cannot count equity in your home.  At retirement your primary home must be paid for.  To summarize.  At 65 you need 6 . 5 times your gross in investments if you want to  have any kind of fun at retirement.

    Less than 1/3 of our friends have taken this advice over the years.  Now with my wife and I considering retirement in our late 50′s it is caused some issues….too bad.  We saved our 10%, bought cars and paid for college for our 4 children by doing this.  Now 39 year later we may reap the rewards of a great next 25 or more years.

    We make good incomes, in a good year, about 130k combined, but not a fortune.  When is time for a major purchase like a kitchen up date we look and talk for about two year before we dive in.  By then all the choices have been made and we are happy with the results and the costs.

    Life is full of choices, choose wisely, also marry well or don’t get married.  This is the most important part of our happiness.

    Kurt