Surprise! New Studies Find Kids Make Us Happy

Libby Kane
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Years of research falls on the side of the childless: Having children, studies tell us, make people unhappy.

(So does wanting the best of both worlds.)

But USA Today reports that two new studies on parenting and happiness find the opposite.

One study, from the Max Planck Institute for Demographic Research in Rostock, Germany, compared the happiness levels of British and German parents in the first 4-5 years after their children’s births to their happiness levels in the 4-5 years before having children.

It found that their overall levels of happiness never dropped below the levels associated with non-parents.

The study’s co-author Mikko Myrskylä is quoted as saying, ”We find no evidence that parental well-being decreases after a child is born to levels preceding the children, but we find strong evidence that well-being is elevated when people are planning and waiting for the child, and in the year when the child is born.”

The same study also found that “those who become parents at younger ages have a downward happiness trend, while postponing parenthood results in a higher happiness level after the birth,” but the study’s co-author makes sure to caveat that as age increases, so too does the risk of becoming involuntarily childless.

And finally, it found that while the first child makes parents happier, the second makes them less so and the third hardly makes a dent.

The other study, from Arizona State University, drew a particularly interesting conclusion after analyzing data from surveys administered in 1972-2008: It’s not so much that parents are happier, but that non-parents are unhappier. By comparison, the parents come out ahead.

This gap in data on happiness from two time periods (1985-1995 and 1995-2008) sparked this idea, and the study’s co-author says that the data isn’t clear on whether parents are happier than non-parents, but certainly that non-parents are getting increasingly unhappy.

So what do you think? Are parents getting happier, are non-parents getting unhappier … or neither?

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    deeds which endure are better in thy Lord’s sight for reward, and better
    in respect of hope [Sorat Alkahf]

  • terrilynnmerritts

    And this is supposed to be proof that “kids make us happier”? You are twisting statistics to make a point and that is dishonest. The first study was done in the UK and Germany and these countries provide full socialized medicine, excellent free education, better working conditions and wages for parents, and more. This would not apply to the stresses of parents in the USA where many are uninsured, schools are lousy, and workers are at the mercy of the 1%. 

    Even in the UK and Germany, we find that parents are happy if they are mature and have a child they planned and waited for. Most people just get pregnant here and don’t really plan nor wait. We also have large numbers of unwed pregnancies. There is a lot of stress and unhappiness in these situations especially when you consider the working conditions and health care situation here.

    In Germany/UK, it is only found that people didn’t become extremely unhappy after having 1 kid. This hardly proves that “kids make us happier”. And there are other factors in their lives that might increase happiness such as more income as they advance in their careers. The Arizona study did not show parents to be happier only that singles with no kids were somewhat unhappier. This may well be attributed to being single and wishing they were not alone or their economic situation. 

  • CleoBarker

    And here I am, the planning and waiting almost done before we start trying for baby #1 :) Good to know it may help in the happiness factor in the long run XD Adoptive parents are probably really happy, I hear most have to wait at least a year and a half before being picked by the birth mother/finding a foster child to adopt, on top of all the money and paperwork involved. :P