Mother of Five ‘Never Worked a Day in Her Life’

Libby Kane
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And the battle rages on.

When Hilary Rosen, Democratic National Committee Adviser and mom of two, said on CNN that Republican candidate Mitt Romney’s wife and stay-at-home mother of five Ann Romney had “never worked a day in her life,” the internet (and every other media channel) lambasted her.

Now, Rosen has responded to the accusations that—among other things—she “doesn’t know what it means to be a mom.” On CNN, where she is a regular contributor, she writes:

“I have no judgments about women who work outside the home versus women who work in the home raising a family. I admire women who can stay home and raise their kids full time. I even envy them sometimes. It is a wonderful luxury to have the choice. But let’s stipulate that it is not a choice that most women have in America today.”

In light of our recent article about the elusive work/life balance for working moms as described by Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg and the data showing that women are made unhappy by wanting to “have it all,” what do you think?

Has Romney “worked a day in her life?” Were Rosen’s remarks inappropriate, offensive or understandable? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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  • Margaret

    I understand the intent of Rosen’s comments, but I think in her effort to be pithy, she left out vital context. It’s not that Ann Romney has never worked a day in her life; having five children is a lot of work, and I’m sure she was actively involved in their care. It’s more that Romney was far more likely to be able to focus on her role as wife/mother and hasn’t had to worry about things that are ever-present for many of us who either do not have the ability to stay home, or do stay home but have to be incredibly resourceful to make it work.

  • terrilynnmerritts

    Mittens and Ann Romney are clueless. My mom was a career mom and business owner. I am a well educated career mom. Ann Romney had 3 underpaid (sharing one salary) nannies and a household staff who did the real work in her homes. I choose to be a good example to my own family just as my mom was for me. I am not a uterus on legs. I have a brain and I use it daily. I have a real life and am not my husband’s free maid, day care worker, cook, sex partner, etc. We are equal partners. 

    We share the workload of errands, shopping, child care, cooking, cleaning, but many working women do every single thing that a stay-at-home mom does IN ADDITION to working an 8 hour day. There is no doubt that the working mom does MORE and works harder. Stay at home moms need to quit thinking they do as much as working moms. Try this- do every single thing you do now then go hold down an 8 hour job in addition to that then tell the working moms you work as hard as they do.

    • Annalouisehernandez

      Laughing so hard because it seems that you are the clueless one.  I’m a stay-at-home mom to twins who are almost a year.  Prior to their birth I worked in the corporate world for 11 years.  I can tell you that being a stay-at-home mom is MUCH harder than working in the corporate world.  In fact, whereas before my children were born I thought of my career as highly stressful, now I would consider it a break to get to go to an office for the majority of the day.  To be able to go to the bathroom when I wanted to and without interruption.  To have the time (even just 5 minutes) to eat lunch.  Don’t get me wrong, I made the choice to stay at home and raise my children so I’m not complaining (and I do realize that I’m extremely fortunate to be able to have the choice in the first place).  Being a stay-at-home mom isn’t intellectually demanding the way my career was before.  However, it is emotionally and physically exhausting in a way I was not prepared for.  To quote someone I used to work with ‘it’s the hardest job I’ve ever loved.’  Motherhood in general is beyond stressful whether you work outside the home, or stay at home to raise your children.  It’s disheartening to hear and see women tearing each other down because of their respective choices.

      Please stop being so close-minded on this issue and competitive with other women.  Parenthood is challenging, so let’s just let everyone figure out what works best for their own families and respect their decisions.