Money Mayhem: British Beauty Says Her Life Is Hard

Alden Wicker
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LearnVest always seeks to educate and inform, but every once in a while, a financial matter hits the headlines and makes us go, “Huh.” Sometimes it even provides us a lens to learn about ourselves. In that spirit, from bad money decisions to financial lessons worth millions, consider our Money Mayhem your source of financial edu-tainment.

In your latest bit of, “Oh no she didn’t!” news, a British blond wrote a story for the U.K.’s Daily Mail saying it’s hard being beautiful.

She’s never been asked to be a bridesmaid, is frozen out by jealous acquaintances and–what we find most fascinating–has had career doors slammed shut in her face.

“Insecure female bosses have barred me from promotions at work,” Samantha Brick says, citing one who refused to sign off on a promotion and sneered at her in front of colleagues. In another instance, a female boss accused her own partner of “fancying” Brick before turning to Brick and calling her unrepeatable names.

Brick claims she dresses demurely–even frumpishly–at work and in real life to put other women at ease and forestall their “paranoia” that their husbands and boyfriends will try to sleep with her, but it doesn’t matter. Being the most beautiful women in the room has ruined friendships, thrown kinks in her career and drained her happiness. She says she pines for old age and the wrinkles that come with it so that women will finally treat her kindly.

It’s cold comfort that men regularly send her champagne and offer her flowers, of course.

The internet has reacted predictably, with Brick-hating practically becoming the national British sport. Thousands have commented on the original article with a cold assessment of her looks, calling her delusional and arrogant, and wondering if the article was a belated April Fool’s joke. Other (rarer) commenters identified with the embarrassment and travails of being hit on constantly by men and harassed by women. She’s gotten thousands of hate mail, hate tweets and hate voicemails, and even virtually walked in on a slamfest on Facebook by her friends.

Brick has made several TV appearances on both sides of the pond to defend herself, and penned a followup post:

“While I’ve been shocked and hurt by the global condemnation, I have just this to say: my detractors have simply proved my point. Their level of anger only underlines that no one in this world is more reviled than a pretty woman.”

Unfortunately for Brick’s hypothesis, statistically, beautiful people actually earn more than their more homely counterparts. So which is it? Does beauty hurt your career? Or does it advance it?

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  • Jenna

    People are more drawn to attractive people so I do believe beauty is an aid in making friends, getting along with people at work, attracting clients, etc., but attractiveness is also how you present yourself so it can also be “faked” if you don’t have it naturally. I can’t spell this out without sounding superficial, but it’s true. You can also be gorgeous, but if your personality sucks you’re not going to keep people around you for long–which seems to be this woman’s problem.

  • http://twitter.com/audreyknox Audrey Knox

    I definitely think people are not blind and let others’ looks affect their opinions, and I identify with and believe some of the negative aspects of what Brick is talking about. I also don’t think she deserves worldwide hatred; it just goes to show how jealous people can be. That being said, being beautiful can open doors that unfortunate-looking people could never dream of, and women that are not only pretty but also kind and sociable tend to incur less jealous and cruel behavior than those that seem more aloof. It’s all about maintaining a balance. Isn’t that the main challenge in anyone’s life?

  • Chumpsrock2000

    I think that what she says is true. I have had problems with female friends out of the blue and fund out it was a jealousy issue, even over someone I had no interest in!

  • Chumpsrock2000

    But still I have had doors opened to me as well because of my looks. Like it or not, attractiveness is hugely important in our society. It can be just as important as race in how you are treated.

  • Abc

    I’m neither female, nor GQ model-attractive, so I can only comment on the observations that I’ve made over the years.  I’ve noticed one of two extremes seem to surround attractive women:

    1. People are jealous, insecure, and untrusting around them

    (or, at the other extreme…)

    2.  People hover around them, trying to spend as much time as possible with them, as though they could become more beautiful or popular by association.

    Either way, the attractive women I’ve known personally have led frustrating lives.  There are definite pros and cons to being attractive, it would seem.

  • Ti

    I think one’s looks can be beneficial at times and cause problems in others.  I also believe that if you choose insecure friends, then you also have to be prepared to deal with the consequences.  I can’t judge Brick because I don’t know her.  Her “observations” may be accurate or she may, in fact, have personality flaws that are causing these issues.  Who knows…

  • Jo

    It’s true that we judge first by appearance and its a shame we miss out on knowing some great people but I feel its all in how you carry yourself.  I don’t think anyone should dress in a way just to make others feel better.  Be sincere, I bet she feels that everyone is against her due to her recent experiences.  She probably doesn’t realize how others view her based on her behavior.