Dance Through Wedding Season on a Budget

Laura Shin
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Bride and bridesmaidFlowers, dresses, friends, yummy food, cake and dancing. What’s not to like about weddings? Well, just one little thing: its drain on our bank accounts.

Getting married is a big deal, and you want to be there to celebrate with your friends. But that often entails shelling out for an engagement gift, a shower present, the bachelorette party, the wedding gift, a dress to wear, the right shoes—plus, hotel and transportation if the wedding isn’t local.

Multiply that by the number of weddings you have in a year, and your friends’ nuptials can put you in the poorhouse.

Make your way through wedding season gracefully while going easy on your budget with these tips:

Gifts

1. Be the First Person on the Registry

“Get in on the registry early so you have the widest variety of price points available,” says Amy Eisinger, associate editor of WeddingChannel.com. This way you won’t be stuck with the $800 mixer or the $10 napkin holders.

2. Buy a Registry Item—From Another Site

One of our staffers loves this savvy tip. Registries are often just a representation of what the couple is in need of, and they may not be wedded to the exact version they selected. Search online for a gift from the registry to see if you can find the same or similar item for a lower price. After you’ve placed your order, go back to the registry and mark the item as fulfilled. Don’t use this tip for the patterned china, of course—stick with items that are likely to be more generic, like towels or kitchen appliances.

3. Go in on Group Gifts

Team up with a few friends to get a present beyond your budget. Perhaps each of you pitches in $100 to get them a few nights at a B&B for a getaway weekend, or you each drop $50 to get them a couples massage.

4. Buy in Bulk

This one is a bit trickier. There aren’t that many things you can buy in bulk that you’d actually give as a wedding gift, but we did think of one great wedding season standby: champagne. Get a discount case, and it can be your no-brainer go-to gift for showers, engagement parties, and other wedding events.

5. Wrap It

This especially applies for the more inexpensive presents that you’ll be bringing to the engagement party, shower, and bachelorette party. “You can’t underestimate how nice a gift can look if you use nice tissue paper, a really cool ribbon, and a faux flower,” says Eisinger. A lovely and thoughtfully penned card also brings a lot of meaning to the gift recipient, no matter the gift’s price point.

Travel

1. Research All Options When Booking Airfare

Use www.rome2rio.com to find out the fastest way to get there. If flying makes sense, find out if you can use your miles (unless the ticket is cheaper than what you spent to earn those miles). Check out all the best bargain flight sites. Later this month, Groupon launches its partnership with Expedia–Groupon Getaways–so add that to your list.

If you’re flying into a city that is not a major hub and has higher ticket prices, take advantage of “hidden-city ticketing.” This means searching for fares to a more popular (and cheaper) destination that might stop over in your target city – i.e. search for Houston instead of Memphis, or Los Angeles instead of Salt Lake City. If you get off the flight during the layover, the airline won’t notice. Just be sure to do two things: 1. Book a one-way for each leg, because otherwise, the airline will cancel your return flight, and 2. (duh) Don’t check your luggage. It will end up far away from where you’ll be!

2. Nab a $3/Hour Car Rental

The latest trend in car sharing is “peer-to-peer” car rental. Avoid pricey car rental fees by “renting” a car from a local for as little as $3 base price from Getaround, or slightly higher prices ($5-$7/hour) at other sites such as RelayRides and JustShareIt. These services are relatively new and are not available in all cities, so do your research ahead of time.

3. Consider Staying at a Different Hotel

While the bride and groom’s block of rooms will generally be the cheapest you can get at their chosen hotel, look at other options in town. Just beware that if you stay away from the main party, you may have to pay for transportation to get to and from the wedding festivities. And if you have to drive, you may have to forgo the champagne.

4. Share

If you’re attending a wedding as a single, ask the couple to connect you with a few other singles who can share a hotel room or a car rental.

5. Avoid Peak Travel Times, and Stay Only as Long as You Need To

Stay as few nights as you can and fly at off-peak times. For instance, flying Saturday morning instead of Friday night might land you a cheaper ticket—and save you on a night’s accommodation.

Fashion and Beauty

1. Get One Dress

Go for a simple dress that you can style in a number of ways. We recommend a classic jewel-tone silk dress that you can accessorize with colorful shawls, jewelry or shoes to give it a different look each time–and that you’ll be able to wear later as a cocktail dress.

2. Buy One Pair of “Wedding Season” Shoes

Instead of worrying about shoe pairings with all your different outfits, invest in one uber-versatile pair, like these, (we dub them “the wedding season shoes”), which not only work with a variety of colors and styles of dresses, but can take you from a beach wedding to an afternoon shower to a black tie reception.

3. Shop Rent the Runway Weddings

Consider shelling out just $50 to rent a designer dress from Rent the Runway Weddings, especially if you only have a couple of weddings this season, or have more than one wedding in a weekend (since you can keep the dress for a few days). However, if you have five weddings this summer, you could easily buy something for the $250 you’d spend to rent a dress each time.

4. Shop Your Friends’ Closets

Ask a girlfriend the same size as you if she wants to trade dresses. But if you end up wearing one of her frocks, be even more careful with it than you would be with your own. You don’t want to have to buy her a replacement.

5. Hit the Beauty Counter

“Don’t get anything professionally done. Do it all yourself – hair, makeup, nails, etc.,” Eisinger says. If you need to buy new makeup anyway, head to the beauty counter where you can get a free makeover and learn some new tips–just know that etiquette requires that you purchase a couple of items.

Lastly, Make a Budget—And Stick to It!

Budget out all possible expenses for every wedding you are attending. While you should take into account any savings you reaped from the above techniques, it doesn’t hurt to overestimate in case anything unexpected comes up.

Your budget should include:

  • Gifts
  • Bachelor/bachelorette night out expenses
  • Dress(es)
  • Shoes
  • Jewelry
  • Beauty
  • Hotel
  • Airfare
  • Local transportation

Once you’ve tallied it all up, figure out if you can afford it all. If not, go back to our tips and see how else you might cut back.

For gifts, determine your gift budget per couple for the wedding season. Once you have this number, Eisinger recommends breaking down the gift budget by these percentages for the events:

50%: wedding
20%: engagement
25%: shower
5%: bachelorette

Eisinger says the most important thing is to refer again and again to your budget: “Over the course of a year, you’re not thinking about the bigger picture of what you’re spending on a wedding. You’re thinking it’s only $50 this week and $20 this week, but it is actually $100 spread out over a period of time.”

It all adds up, but with a little proactive planning and spending, wedding season can be as fun as it should be. Tchin tchin!

If you’re a bride on a budget, check out our tips for scoring a cheap wedding dress and getting fit without busting your budget.

  • Guest

    In my experience, if I am in a wedding, the dress and the bachelorette typically takes up 80% of the budget. Therefore, I typically dont get as nice of gifts for weddings I am in because I have already spent so much to be a part of it. And realistically I know my best friends would rather me be at their bachelorette than get a hand towel from me.
    One of my favorite tips is if I know I have a couple weddings or even baby showers coming up I look at places like TJ Maxx, Marshalls, Amazon and some of the deal sites for things that are commonly on registries like ice cream makers, kitchen utensils, etc… and stock up when I find a good deal so I have a little box of gifts ready for when I need them! You can always call the stores where people are registered and they will remove the item from the registry.
    Borrowing dresses and shoes from friends is a life saver for crazy wedding seasons!

  • Guest

    In my experience, if I am in a wedding, the dress and the bachelorette typically takes up 80% of the budget. Therefore, I typically dont get as nice of gifts for weddings I am in because I have already spent so much to be a part of it. And realistically I know my best friends would rather me be at their bachelorette than get a hand towel from me.
    One of my favorite tips is if I know I have a couple weddings or even baby showers coming up I look at places like TJ Maxx, Marshalls, Amazon and some of the deal sites for things that are commonly on registries like ice cream makers, kitchen utensils, etc… and stock up when I find a good deal so I have a little box of gifts ready for when I need them! You can always call the stores where people are registered and they will remove the item from the registry.
    Borrowing dresses and shoes from friends is a life saver for crazy wedding seasons!

  • Guest

    In my experience, if I am in a wedding, the dress and the bachelorette typically takes up 80% of the budget. Therefore, I typically dont get as nice of gifts for weddings I am in because I have already spent so much to be a part of it. And realistically I know my best friends would rather me be at their bachelorette than get a hand towel from me.
    One of my favorite tips is if I know I have a couple weddings or even baby showers coming up I look at places like TJ Maxx, Marshalls, Amazon and some of the deal sites for things that are commonly on registries like ice cream makers, kitchen utensils, etc… and stock up when I find a good deal so I have a little box of gifts ready for when I need them! You can always call the stores where people are registered and they will remove the item from the registry.
    Borrowing dresses and shoes from friends is a life saver for crazy wedding seasons!

  • Guest

    In my experience, if I am in a wedding, the dress and the bachelorette typically takes up 80% of the budget. Therefore, I typically dont get as nice of gifts for weddings I am in because I have already spent so much to be a part of it. And realistically I know my best friends would rather me be at their bachelorette than get a hand towel from me.
    One of my favorite tips is if I know I have a couple weddings or even baby showers coming up I look at places like TJ Maxx, Marshalls, Amazon and some of the deal sites for things that are commonly on registries like ice cream makers, kitchen utensils, etc… and stock up when I find a good deal so I have a little box of gifts ready for when I need them! You can always call the stores where people are registered and they will remove the item from the registry.
    Borrowing dresses and shoes from friends is a life saver for crazy wedding seasons!

  • Guest

    In my experience, if I am in a wedding, the dress and the bachelorette typically takes up 80% of the budget. Therefore, I typically dont get as nice of gifts for weddings I am in because I have already spent so much to be a part of it. And realistically I know my best friends would rather me be at their bachelorette than get a hand towel from me.
    One of my favorite tips is if I know I have a couple weddings or even baby showers coming up I look at places like TJ Maxx, Marshalls, Amazon and some of the deal sites for things that are commonly on registries like ice cream makers, kitchen utensils, etc… and stock up when I find a good deal so I have a little box of gifts ready for when I need them! You can always call the stores where people are registered and they will remove the item from the registry.
    Borrowing dresses and shoes from friends is a life saver for crazy wedding seasons!

  • A.S.

    Two close friends of mine are planning a “destination wedding” that sounds like it will be more expensive to attend than what I can afford.  Their guest list is small and they expect my husband and I to attend.  How do I deal with this?

  • A.S.

    Two close friends of mine are planning a “destination wedding” that sounds like it will be more expensive to attend than what I can afford.  Their guest list is small and they expect my husband and I to attend.  How do I deal with this?

    • Anonymous

      Hi A.S.,

      Since they are close friends, see if you can move things around in your
      budget or cut other expenses to save for it. If it is still out of your
      budget after making these shifts, then be honest with your friend and let her know it’s out of your budget as much as you would like to attend. We recommend spending more on the gift to compensate for not going, but how much more depends on your budget and your relationship with the couple. If you do end up finding enough savings to
      attend, then you can spend less on the gift. Good luck, and let us know if you have any other questions!

      Laura

    • Anonymous

      Hi A.S.,

      Since they are close friends, see if you can move things around in your
      budget or cut other expenses to save for it. If it is still out of your
      budget after making these shifts, then be honest with your friend and let her know it’s out of your budget as much as you would like to attend. We recommend spending more on the gift to compensate for not going, but how much more depends on your budget and your relationship with the couple. If you do end up finding enough savings to
      attend, then you can spend less on the gift. Good luck, and let us know if you have any other questions!

      Laura

    • Anonymous

      Hi A.S.,

      Since they are close friends, see if you can move things around in your
      budget or cut other expenses to save for it. If it is still out of your
      budget after making these shifts, then be honest with your friend and let her know it’s out of your budget as much as you would like to attend. We recommend spending more on the gift to compensate for not going, but how much more depends on your budget and your relationship with the couple. If you do end up finding enough savings to
      attend, then you can spend less on the gift. Good luck, and let us know if you have any other questions!

      Laura

    • Anonymous

      Hi A.S.,

      Since they are close friends, see if you can move things around in your
      budget or cut other expenses to save for it. If it is still out of your
      budget after making these shifts, then be honest with your friend and let her know it’s out of your budget as much as you would like to attend. We recommend spending more on the gift to compensate for not going, but how much more depends on your budget and your relationship with the couple. If you do end up finding enough savings to
      attend, then you can spend less on the gift. Good luck, and let us know if you have any other questions!

      Laura

    • Anonymous

      Hi A.S.,

      Since they are close friends, see if you can move things around in your
      budget or cut other expenses to save for it. If it is still out of your
      budget after making these shifts, then be honest with your friend and let her know it’s out of your budget as much as you would like to attend. We recommend spending more on the gift to compensate for not going, but how much more depends on your budget and your relationship with the couple. If you do end up finding enough savings to
      attend, then you can spend less on the gift. Good luck, and let us know if you have any other questions!

      Laura

  • A.S.

    Two close friends of mine are planning a “destination wedding” that sounds like it will be more expensive to attend than what I can afford.  Their guest list is small and they expect my husband and I to attend.  How do I deal with this?

  • A.S.

    Two close friends of mine are planning a “destination wedding” that sounds like it will be more expensive to attend than what I can afford.  Their guest list is small and they expect my husband and I to attend.  How do I deal with this?

  • A.S.

    Two close friends of mine are planning a “destination wedding” that sounds like it will be more expensive to attend than what I can afford.  Their guest list is small and they expect my husband and I to attend.  How do I deal with this?

  • AZ

    Another great tip if you are late on the registry or if the couple has not registered for much is to buy a gift certificate for the price you would have spent on a gift to the place they are registered. I recently did this and the couple was grateful because it allowed them to purchase something they would not have received otherwise.

  • AZ

    Another great tip if you are late on the registry or if the couple has not registered for much is to buy a gift certificate for the price you would have spent on a gift to the place they are registered. I recently did this and the couple was grateful because it allowed them to purchase something they would not have received otherwise.

  • AZ

    Another great tip if you are late on the registry or if the couple has not registered for much is to buy a gift certificate for the price you would have spent on a gift to the place they are registered. I recently did this and the couple was grateful because it allowed them to purchase something they would not have received otherwise.

  • AZ

    Another great tip if you are late on the registry or if the couple has not registered for much is to buy a gift certificate for the price you would have spent on a gift to the place they are registered. I recently did this and the couple was grateful because it allowed them to purchase something they would not have received otherwise.

  • AZ

    Another great tip if you are late on the registry or if the couple has not registered for much is to buy a gift certificate for the price you would have spent on a gift to the place they are registered. I recently did this and the couple was grateful because it allowed them to purchase something they would not have received otherwise.

  • https://profiles.google.com/abarnard Angela

    I am traveling to my hometown of Seattle this summer for my wedding, but currently live on the East Coast. Similar to the rental car option, I found a site called airbnb.com that allows people to rent out their rooms/houses/basements/boats/condos/apartments/other livable property and it seems to be a better deal than a hotel. We are staying near downtown (5 minute bus ride to the heart of downtown) in a basement MIL apartment that is well furnished/designed with a washer/dryer, full kitchen with espresso machine as well as two beds (for four people). With taxes and fees we are getting away with it for about $900.00. Try getting two rooms in a hotel for 7 nights for that price – and you won’t get a nice full kitchen with it. 

    Another option is couchsurfing.org – I’ve used it while traveling in the Netherlands and have hosted some people in Seattle. It’s a great way to meet cool people!

  • https://profiles.google.com/abarnard Angela

    I am traveling to my hometown of Seattle this summer for my wedding, but currently live on the East Coast. Similar to the rental car option, I found a site called airbnb.com that allows people to rent out their rooms/houses/basements/boats/condos/apartments/other livable property and it seems to be a better deal than a hotel. We are staying near downtown (5 minute bus ride to the heart of downtown) in a basement MIL apartment that is well furnished/designed with a washer/dryer, full kitchen with espresso machine as well as two beds (for four people). With taxes and fees we are getting away with it for about $900.00. Try getting two rooms in a hotel for 7 nights for that price – and you won’t get a nice full kitchen with it. 

    Another option is couchsurfing.org – I’ve used it while traveling in the Netherlands and have hosted some people in Seattle. It’s a great way to meet cool people!

  • https://profiles.google.com/abarnard Angela

    I am traveling to my hometown of Seattle this summer for my wedding, but currently live on the East Coast. Similar to the rental car option, I found a site called airbnb.com that allows people to rent out their rooms/houses/basements/boats/condos/apartments/other livable property and it seems to be a better deal than a hotel. We are staying near downtown (5 minute bus ride to the heart of downtown) in a basement MIL apartment that is well furnished/designed with a washer/dryer, full kitchen with espresso machine as well as two beds (for four people). With taxes and fees we are getting away with it for about $900.00. Try getting two rooms in a hotel for 7 nights for that price – and you won’t get a nice full kitchen with it. 

    Another option is couchsurfing.org – I’ve used it while traveling in the Netherlands and have hosted some people in Seattle. It’s a great way to meet cool people!

  • https://profiles.google.com/abarnard Angela

    I am traveling to my hometown of Seattle this summer for my wedding, but currently live on the East Coast. Similar to the rental car option, I found a site called airbnb.com that allows people to rent out their rooms/houses/basements/boats/condos/apartments/other livable property and it seems to be a better deal than a hotel. We are staying near downtown (5 minute bus ride to the heart of downtown) in a basement MIL apartment that is well furnished/designed with a washer/dryer, full kitchen with espresso machine as well as two beds (for four people). With taxes and fees we are getting away with it for about $900.00. Try getting two rooms in a hotel for 7 nights for that price – and you won’t get a nice full kitchen with it. 

    Another option is couchsurfing.org – I’ve used it while traveling in the Netherlands and have hosted some people in Seattle. It’s a great way to meet cool people!

  • http://www.stylebaggage.com/ Nellene

    I like to buy a large gift that can be split in half. For example: If I want to give them 6 sets of their dishes, I give them 2 at the shower and the remaining 4 at the wedding. That way I can buy one really nice gift. Another example: I buy their towels on their registry. Give all but 2 at the shower. Then for the wedding gift I have the remaining 2 monogramed with Mr. and Mrs. or something personalized. Seems to always work out well for me.

  • Cranberry8206

    I have to disagree with the suggestion about buying a gift that’s similar to what the couple registered for. As a recent bride, I put a lot of time and effort into researching every single item on our registry. If someone bought us a random coffee maker, for example, we probably would have tried to return it (which isn’t always possible), and then bought the coffee maker that we wanted. Also, I’m not sure that a guest can just “mark the item as fulfilled,” since the store automatically does that, after you buy something from the a couple’s registry.

    If the couple doesn’t have a variety of price points on their registry, I think buying them a gift card is a great idea. If nothing else, I think a simple greeting card with a heartfelt message can be great. A few of our guests didn’t get us a gift, which is fine, since we didn’t get married to get presents…but it would have been so nice to get a card from those people. Even a dollar store card would have been meaningful and appreciated.