Have a Career and Stay at Home: SavvySugar Talks to a Mom Blogger

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There’s nothing more rewarding than being a mother. Having a full-time job and taking care of kids can feel like having two jobs, which is why many women dream about being a stay-at-home mom. We talked to Jen Singer, a mom who turned her stay-at-home mom status into a job.

SavvySugar: How did you turn being a stay-at-home mom into a career?

Jen Singer: Right now I’m an author and a blogger. I created the blog MommaSaid.net, which I’ve done actually for eight years now. I started it when my kids were little and when they were in school, I would write it at night. Now it’s become more of a full-time job because with that I published five books, most recently the Stop Second Guessing Yourself guides to parenting; there’s three of them. And I’ve also been a spokesperson for several companies. I’m a Pull Ups potty training partner so I give potty training advice to moms on Facebook for Pull Ups.

SS: Please walk us through your typical day!

JS: There is no typical day. It changes from day to day, but I can tell you what the last couple of days were like. Generally my kids get on the school bus in the morning, then I go to my office and I’ll blog something on MommaSaid and then I’ll write something for a client. Right now, it happens to be the week that I’m giving potty training advice on Facebook for Pull Ups so I have to go on and write some potty training advice. Just yesterday I finished writing a book so I had to do a bit of editing on that and in between I’m throwing in loads of laundry into the washer and running out to pick up library books.

SS: Why is being a stay-at-home mom a dream job?

JS: I think that one of the reasons that women see this as a dream job is because it prevents you from having to do that crazy juggle of work and kids. You are able to focus just on your kids alone. I think there is also sort of that romantic feel to it, where you get to spend your kids’ early years with them and you get to see their first steps and you get to hear their first word, you’re there for everything. And I think that’s very alluring to moms.

SS: How was it like being a full-time stay-at-home mom?

JS: When I was a full-time stay-at-home mom my kids were only 19 months apart, so I was deep into the diapers and toddler madness. I would put them both down onto the playground and one would dash one way and the other one would dash the other way. I felt like I didn’t sit down for four years! It was exhausting, but at the same time it was really wonderful to be there for them when they came out of the preschool or when they talked for the first time. It was really fulfilling to be so deep into their lives for so long.

SS: Any advice to stay-at-home moms out there?

JS: Make sure that you set aside time for yourself ahead of time and don’t be afraid to ask for it. Being an at-home mom is just like any other job and you deserve time for yourself.

Tell us in the comments: Are you —or would you want to be—a stay-at-home mom?

  • http://www.momof2athome.com Angela Steward

    My job was eliminated a week ago forcing to be a stay at home mom and I could not be happier!!! I’m going to try to make it a continuous thing because I’ve been wanting to do this for 7 years now. There are so many moms doing it out there that it’s great encouragement for us moms “giving it a shot.”

  • Momz

    It’s really cool to think that moms can be full-time moms, but still have a job or career outside of their kids. Best of both worlds!

  • Sharonica

    Um, I think when most of us want a career and to take care of kids, it’s not actually a career as a Pull Ups potty training partner that we want. Who wants to be professionally associated with bodily waste? The dream isn’t really just having “a career,” it’s usually having THE career we’ve always wanted. (And not being called “Momma” by anyone I didn’t give birth to.)

  • Sharonica

    Um, I think when most of us want a career and to take care of kids, it’s not actually a career as a Pull Ups potty training partner that we want. Who wants to be professionally associated with bodily waste? The dream isn’t really just having “a career,” it’s usually having THE career we’ve always wanted. (And not being called “Momma” by anyone I didn’t give birth to.)

    • ~M

      Wow, that’s kind of harsh. Jen Singer seems pretty happy…where as you just seem…kind of judgmental. Clearly, she’s proud of what she does and it does serve a purpose. Potty-training is rarely easy and information about this important process in human development is definitely a sought-out resource. I’m guessing you’re probably not a mom or you wouldn’t be minimizing another woman’s choices…or at least you’d have the manners not to do so publicly.

      • Rachel

        I agree with Sharonica, in that I don’t believe the author is in fact a “stay-at-home-mom.” This article presents the concept of a “stay-at-home-mom” as a woman who does not work. Blogging and writing are full-time jobs, even if they are conducted at home. While there is nothing wrong with this decision, I see the author as an entrepreneur. Thus, I feel like her advice is somewhat disingenuous. The author does stay home with her children, but she also brings in an income. Not all women who stay at home with their children have the option of bringing in an income while they stay at home.

    • http://www.bmwysp.deviantart.com Jennifer Megan Varnadore

       I also think that was kind of harsh. Who are you to judge what makes another woman happy? I wouldn’t mind doing what she does. It’s not necessarily just a job associated with “bodily waste” either. It’s the chance to show your experience as a mother, and help someone else struggling.

    • guest

      Writing is a legitimate career choice. Also, I happen to love being called “Momma” by many kids I have not birthed. Your comments are an unwarranted slap in the face to writers, foster parents and adoptive parents.

  • lanalanalanana

    I am a full time mom.  Our boy is 18 months and I love telling my husband every evening all the cool stuff he did during the day, the new things he discovered or how he learnt something and seemed so proud of himself… you wouldn’t want to miss that and just hear it from someone else.  Just this month I’m starting to help my husband part time with his business – usually during my son’s nap time, and at night after he goes to bed.  It is true you feel tired, very tired, many days, but also, it is very rewarding.  I wouldn’t change it for anything (and I had a very good career before having the baby, my master is in Corporate Finance and Capital Markets…).   Personally, I wouldn’t want a job related to being a mom, but that is just me, my personal choice, nothing wrong with it though.

  • proud ky momma

    I am a full time SAHM and my son is 21 months. Its been kind of hard because we are both unemployed. We live in a small town with very few job opportunities so when we find a temp job one of us goes for it. I work temporary jobs but I absolutely love staying home with my son. I told my husband that there is no reason to put our son in daycare if we can provide for him ourself. You can teach the same things at home as in daycare and its a lot cheaper. I think more moms or dads should stay at home instead of paying other people to watch their kids. I know alot of people who put kids in daycare just because they dont want to deal with them and then sit at home the rest of the day by themselves. Besides staying at home is harder than going out to work I think. Especially if you dont get breaks or help.

  • proud ky momma

    I am a full time SAHM and my son is 21 months. Its been kind of hard because we are both unemployed. We live in a small town with very few job opportunities so when we find a temp job one of us goes for it. I work temporary jobs but I absolutely love staying home with my son. I told my husband that there is no reason to put our son in daycare if we can provide for him ourself. You can teach the same things at home as in daycare and its a lot cheaper. I think more moms or dads should stay at home instead of paying other people to watch their kids. I know alot of people who put kids in daycare just because they dont want to deal with them and then sit at home the rest of the day by themselves. Besides staying at home is harder than going out to work I think. Especially if you dont get breaks or help.

  • Katie

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